What do you need me to explain?!

I was talking to a friend (guy) and we were talking about men and women seminarians. Why do women go to seminaries? For missions, I can get that. C/E directors? Possibly. I mean, they'll never be a pastor (not really). So, if they're in a marriage state of mind (meaning, they want to get married at all; some women don't, right?), then they're looking for a seminarian (obviously, at least to me). BUT this seminarian my friend knows (who's young) wouldn't really be interested in a woman from seminary...because of things I mentioned below. It's great that she wants to know about God and be able to use this knowledge for His Kingdom but if that's all she knows, it's not as interesting. I know that sounds messed up. So, if she had a life before (doing her own thing, learning about herself, and her world) meeting him, she'll so much more to the table. And when they meet, that she's willing to change for him, for their mission together. Does that sound messed up? I don't know. That sounds right. I mean, if you take a regular guy (non-seminarian) and ask him whether he'd like someone totally just like him or someone who brings something to the table (like a previous life of adventures, experiences, or just background), he'd pick the latter.

Do you agree? Disagree? Still not sure what I'm saying?

OK. Maybe this is from a selfish-man-POV, but have you ever thought that a church-planter/China missions-oriented man doesn't want an exact replica of himself? I know it doesn't seem to make sense but hear me out. So, this guy is totally in missions and wants to plant a church and all that you are looking for. And, hey, you want the same things too! We have a match, right? Not really. I mean, though the guy obviously wants a woman who shares his vision and will accompany him on his/their mission, he doesn't exactly want a pre-packaged missionary's wife. Do you know what I mean?

I'm obviously not speaking for all men, but I think that guys want a woman who's had a life before him and whose life wasn't to wait for him.

This is not a commentary of what you're doing "right" or "wrong." I'm just offering a thought out there that might shape your own thoughts about relationships, your career path, your goals and mission in life.

Don't know how you do it. What makes you "go" for a guy? I mean, why not sit and wait? And by "going" for him, what do you do? Put yourself in his way? That might work.

As for me, I'm supposed to be the one "going" for the women right? Haven't found anyone yet. I'm not looking so that might be why. It's all good though. Really it is!

First day in my working life that I didn't go to a news website because I was diligently working. Never happened before. Don't know whether to be proud or ashamed.

Learned that song last year. Good song!