Wednesday, February 27, 2002
Friday, February 22, 2002
It's Wei3 Xian2.
Actually, what I hear about friendships is that people always seem to gravitate and hold dear their college friendships more so than their current friends. Well, I don't really know that. I just know that my post-college friendships can seem transistory. I think that because while we were in college, after four years, it's perfectly reasonable for people to move away to do their thing, whether it's graduate school, work, being at home with family. However, post-college, in the town you've decided to study, work, live, people moving away is a deliberate, conscious decision. It's a decision to move away from those friends you've made thus far. Perhaps, it's being in New York, where people have many goals, all of which are significant to them. And friendship is just one "sub-goal." And often times, these subgoals conflict, overlap, and/or are mutually exclusive.
I have an idealized view of friendship and family. I think I told you this. My problem is that very few hold this view, especially in New York City. So, change my view? Is that it?
Communication is key, don't you think? But there's a difference between communication and dumping, right? But what's the difference?
And how do you handle "pockets" of friends? Our mobile culture forces us to have these different pockets. I imagine a wedding where I'm just one of a party that is just one pocket of this couple's world of friends. I guess there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just selfish that way. I want them all to myself. Is that so wrong?
Actually, what I hear about friendships is that people always seem to gravitate and hold dear their college friendships more so than their current friends. Well, I don't really know that. I just know that my post-college friendships can seem transistory. I think that because while we were in college, after four years, it's perfectly reasonable for people to move away to do their thing, whether it's graduate school, work, being at home with family. However, post-college, in the town you've decided to study, work, live, people moving away is a deliberate, conscious decision. It's a decision to move away from those friends you've made thus far. Perhaps, it's being in New York, where people have many goals, all of which are significant to them. And friendship is just one "sub-goal." And often times, these subgoals conflict, overlap, and/or are mutually exclusive.
I have an idealized view of friendship and family. I think I told you this. My problem is that very few hold this view, especially in New York City. So, change my view? Is that it?
Communication is key, don't you think? But there's a difference between communication and dumping, right? But what's the difference?
And how do you handle "pockets" of friends? Our mobile culture forces us to have these different pockets. I imagine a wedding where I'm just one of a party that is just one pocket of this couple's world of friends. I guess there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just selfish that way. I want them all to myself. Is that so wrong?
Thursday, February 21, 2002
Do you think that any friend you make after college (similar to our go-away-to-college, non-commuter experience) will match the ones we made in college? What if your post-college days are not spent in your hometown and therefore your go-away, non-commuter experience is similar? What if you don't keep in touch with those college friends as much?
Wednesday, February 20, 2002
Friday, February 15, 2002
I'm doing my annual objectives for work as part of our mid-year and end-of-year evaluation and I realize that I HAVE NO STRENGTHS! What's wrong with me? All I have put down is "spreadsheet/analytical data analysis." That's it! I'm not good technically because I have no idea what they're talking about. I'm not good communication-wise because I really don't feel like talking to these people, primarily because they're going to respond to me in that technical jargon that I don't understand in the first place! I like the idea of my role (which is "product management") but I don't like the industry in which I'm applying it. Got .... to..... get......another.......job.................
Of course, there are so many caveats to that last sentence. It's gotta pay well (or at least OK). It's gotta be some specific companies that I have in mind (i.e. not a total startup or anything). The industry should be in the areas of my interest. It can't be far away; I'm not relocating for it.
Of course, there are so many caveats to that last sentence. It's gotta pay well (or at least OK). It's gotta be some specific companies that I have in mind (i.e. not a total startup or anything). The industry should be in the areas of my interest. It can't be far away; I'm not relocating for it.
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